This is a disease of the heart that differs from every other disease in its nature, its causes, and its remedy. Once it enters the heart it dominates it. Even the doctors (i.e. therapists) are unable to provide a medicine for it. But the medication for this disease lies in knowing firstly that what you have been tested with conflicts with tawhīd.
Thus one should occupy himself with physical and spiritual acts of worship, which in turn would preoccupy him from constantly thinking about that woman. Make lots of du‘ā to Allah (The Most Perfect) that He turns your heart away from her and He returns it back to Him. Continue reading →
Points From The Friday Khutbah by Abu Yusuf Khaleefah (hafidhahullaah):
The Prophet Muhammad (sallal laahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was the best of the people in character. Allah stated to him:
وَإِنَّكَ لَعَلَىٰ خُلُقٍ عَظِيمٍ
“And indeed you are upon exalted character.” (Soorah Al-Qalam: 4)
He (sallal laahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was sent to perfect the character of the people. He said, “Indeed I have only been sent to perfect the moral character” .
Those who have good character are from the best of the people. The Prophet (sallal laahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “Indeed the best of you are those who are the best in character” .
Those who have bad character are the worst of the people. The Prophet (sallal laahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said about the man who sought permission to enter, and before he entered the Prophet (sallal laahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said about him, “What an evil member or brother of his tribe he is.” When he entered the Prophet was kind to him and gentle. After the man left the Prophet (sallal laahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was questioned about his actions with the man and he responded, “Indeed the worst of the people is the one who the people keep away from out of fear of his bad behavior.”
The most heavy of the things on the scales is having good character. The Prophet said, “Indeed the most heavy of things on the scales is good character” .
The Noble Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy upon him) stated:
Those who love each other for the sake of Allah, there’s nothing from the affairs of the worldly life that can cut off their love for the sake of Allah. Indeed they are people who only love (each other) for the sake of Allah, nothing separates them except for death. Even if some of them have made a mistake against the others or have fallen short regarding the rights of others, indeed this does not concern them.
Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Alee Ibn Aadam al-Etiyoobi (may Allah preserve him) mentioned a benefit from that which took place with the Prophet’s uncle Abu Taalib when he refused to say “Laa Ilaaha Illallaah”:
The beneficial love is the religious love and not the natural love. Indeed Abu Taalib used to love the Prophet with strong love. He used to give precedence to him over his own children. However, that didn’t benefit him since he didn’t love him with the legislated love which carries (a person) upon following him (i.e. the Prophet) and submitting to his legislation.