Shaykh Muqbil, the Muḥaddith of Yemen, was asked his advice on the upbringing and nurturing of our children. The following was his reply, which should be written in gold:
All praise be to Allāh and may the peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ. To proceed: The upbringing of children is from the important affairs and is problematic. As for it being important, that is because the child takes from whomsoever he mixes with. If his father is a singer, then he will not hear except that his father singing. And if his father is an author, then from the very start, he will have a sheet of paper and pen drawing in a notebook until he fills up the notebook.
We say it’s like this: if his father is a officer and you were to say to him: “What would you like to be,” he will say, “I would like to be a officer,” and if his father is a scholar and you were to ask him, “what would you like to be,” he would say “I would like to be a scholar.” This is in his childhood before he begins to mingle in the streets. Continue reading →
The Noble Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan (may Allah preserve him) stated:
It is known that obligations are not (mandated) upon the child who hasn’t reached puberty–not the prayer or other than it until he (or she) reaches puberty. The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) stated:
The pen is lifted from three (people). The one sleeping until he awakes. The child until he has a wet dream (i.e reaches puberty). And from the insane person until he comes to his senses.
However the child is commanded with making it. Therefore his guardian commands him with the prayer when he reaches the age of seven and he has with him (the ability to) distinguish (between matters) and he knows what is said to him and that which he is commanded with. Therefore he is to be commanded with the prayer, not because it is obligatory upon him, he is only commanded with it as an exercise for him. Meaning as a means of getting him accustomed to the prayer until he becomes trained upon making it and he knows its importance. And as a result he grows up upon that so when he reaches puberty he is accustomed to the prayer. Continue reading →
:من المعلوم أن الصبي الذي لم يبلغ ليس عليه واجبات، لا صلاة ولا غيرها حتى يبلغ، قال صلى الله عليه و سلم ))
.رفع القلم عن ثلاثة عن النائم حتى يستيقظ وعن الصبي حتى يحتلم وعن المجنون حتى يعقل
ولكن الصبي يؤمر بها، فيأمره وليّه بالصلاة إذا بلغ سبع سنين يكون عنده تمييز ومعرفة فيما يقال له وما يؤمر به، فيؤمر بالصلاة لا على أنها واجبة عليه، وإنما يؤمر بها تمريناً له أي: تعويداً له بالصلاة حتى يتمرّن عليها ويعرف أهميتها، فينشأ على ذلك، فإذا بلغ فإذا هو قد تمرن على الصلاة و تعلم طهارتها وتعلم كيف يؤدّيها فهذا فيه تربية له على الصلاة وهذا يدل على أهمية الصلاة وأنها أول ما يؤمر به الأطفال، فهي في حقّه نافلة، وأما أمره بها من قبل الولي فهذا أمر واجب على الولي فيجب على وليّه أن يأمره بها لأن النبيّ صلى الله عليه وسلم أمر الوليّ بذلك فقال
.مروا أولادكم بالصلاة وهم أبناء سبع سنين واضربوهم عليها وهم أبناء عشر وفرّقوا بينهم في المضاجع